Cecily Breaux
What I Overheard at the Reception May Very Well Shock You
Whether your wedding will be very large or very small, you are probably spending a lot of time and effort trying to make your day unforgettable.
Unfortunately, the odds are against you ...unless you know a little-known secret.
I recently attended an absolutely stunning wedding; one of my very good friends was getting married, and no expense was spared for the ceremony, the reception, or the rehearsal dinner - it was nothing but first class all the way. I was so proud for her.
The food at the reception looked so delicious it wasn't long before a considerable line formed in front of the buffet table. By that time, I was really very hungry, so I snuck away from all the conversation to take my place in line. While I was waiting, I overheard something that really shocked me...
Two ladies were standing in line in front of me chatting with one another - I couldn't help overhearing.
They were talking about the ceremony, giving their opinions and comparing it with what went on at other weddings they had recently attended. What was shocking was how much of the ceremony they had already forgotten.
One said that she prefered a certain reading at the wedding she had attended the previous month, but when she described it I immediately realized that the same reading had been part of my friends ceremony as well. In fact, the more they spoke, the more it became clear that most of my friend's careful planning and preparation had been completely lost on these two - they had somehow missed or already forgotten most of the ceremony.
The nerve of some people! Every single wedding they attend is designed to be a special event for someone - one of the most important moments of a lifetime. But they come, feed their faces, and promptly forget everything that happened moments after they leave - sometimes even before they leave!
It's sad, really - the odds are against you.
To be fair, though, it's not like people try to forget your wedding. Weddings suffer from three factors that doom most to rapid obscurity:
- Weddings crowd the most popular times of year (like June), so your wedding is likely to be surrounded by several others.
- Groups of friends often get married at about the same time, so people are often attending a series of weddings in quick succession.
- There is a limited number of traditional elements (readings, music, etc.) to choose from, so many elements repeat from one wedding to the next.
So there are a lot of weddings out there, and they tend to be very much alike.
The Secret to an Absolutely Unforgettable Wedding
However, it is not impossible to create a memorable wedding. Since my experience at my friend's wedding, I have made a point to notice which weddings I attend seem memorable and which are not. I've attended a lot of weddings - including my own. So over the last several years I've had a lot to study.
I have come up with what I believe is the secret to creating a wedding that is truly unique and memorable. I have put this insight to the test and found that it very accurately predicts which weddings are remembered and which are quickly forgotten.
Here it is...
The secret to creating a memorable wedding is to concentrate your creativity on what people will naturally tend to notice.
If you understand what people will naturally notice then you can make sure you create uniqueness where it will be sure to make an impression. As a guiding principle or strategy, this makes sense - doesn't it?
So what do people remember most?
Well, you may be surprised to find out that many of the things you can spend a lot of time, money, and effort on hardly make an impact at all.
- It's not the flowers or the candles.
- It's not the banquet hall or the limos.
- It's not the music or the band.
- It's not the food you serve or the wine you pour.
- It's not the length of the trane or the color of the cumber bunds.
In fact, it's not any of the things that can cost an absolute fortune. In fact, it's probably the cheapest element of the entire event - but most brides don't know any better, and they neglect it.
Want to know what it is? Then click here to find out what it is and how you can use that knowledge to make a lasting impression.